Laura asks:
I am attending the wedding of someone who, up until she was engaged, was perfectly normal. Since she started planning her wedding she's become a crazed psycho. She talks of nothing except her wedding, changes all subjects to be about her wedding, and seems to have forgotten her friends exist.
I pray she comes back down to planet Earth after her wedding.
She has asked me to give a toast at her wedding, but right now I can think of nothing nice to say. Should I decline or suck it up?
It sounds like your friend is one of those people who doesn't realize that no one cares about her wedding as much as she does. If her behavior has devolved to the point where you can't think of anything nice to say about her, you might want to say something to her.
For the sake of her relationships with all of her friends, it's time for someone to pull this girl aside and let her know--in the kindest terms possible--that there's a lot more going on in the world than her wedding, and that turning every conversation back to herself is rude, self-centered, and boring.
If you're really uncomfortable giving a toast, then politely decline. Giving her your reason may compromise your friendship, so if you wish to remain close you can blame it on stage fright or nerves.
But remember that this will pass (at least until she gets pregnant and thinks she's the first person in history to reproduce). If she goes back to normal when the wedding is over, will your friendship go back to the way it was? Will you regret not having done this? Wedding planning can be overwhelming, and it's been known to consume the lives of more than a few young brides. If you think this is a case of temporary insanity, you may decide it's worth it to reach into the depths of your memory and base your toast on the person she was before the diamond ring ate her brain.
Some people think the world revolves around their life events, and just becuase things are going on in their lives that no one else wants to talk about anything but that. It's like those people who get pregnant and figure out how to bring up their pregnancy at every chance they get like everyone wants to hear about it, or people will forget if you don't beat it into their brains. I think those people are shallow, that they cannot find anything else to talk about so all they do is talk about their wedding (or their pregnancy, or their job). They are very boring people. maybe this is the end of the friendship, because this person sounds completely self-involved. I bet she doesn't even realize she does this.
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